Posts Tagged ‘Wedding Etiquette’

Wedding Invitation Etiquette: Do’s and Don’ts

Sunday, April 8th, 2012

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Confused about the etiquette associated with wedding invitations? For example, how should they be addressed? When should you mail them? Do you also need to send “save the dates“? You’re not alone. When so many rules and misconceptions abound, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by the task. But relax, here’s a quick list of invitation do’s and don’ts to keep you on track.

Do design and order your invitations 3-6 months prior to your wedding date.

Do mail out your invitations 6-10 weeks prior to your wedding date.

Don’t forget to order extra envelopes. When addressing your envelopes, you’re bound to make a few mistakes, such as misspelling someone’s name or accidentally using an old address. Make sure to have extras on hand.

Do include this information in your invitations: Hosts’ names (parents, the engaged couple or both, including titles, first, middle and last names), date and time, location city/state, and RSVP address and deadline (if you’re not including separate, stamped reply cards).

Don’t include attire or registry information on your formal wedding invitation. Save these details for your wedding website instead.

Do proofread your invitations prior to ordering them. Make sure to carefully read and re-read your invitations to catch any mistakes. Have a friend review them as well – a fresh set of eyes may catch something you missed.

Do address outer envelopes with your guests’ formal titles first and last names (Mr. and Mrs. John Robert Smith).

Do address inner envelopes with your guests’ titles and last names (Mr. and Mrs. Smith). Then list children’s names by first and last name.

Don’t address an invitation to only one person in a married couple. Include both names on the invitation, even if you only know one of them personally.

Do address invitations to unmarried couples to both people’s titles, first and last names. For single guests, address their inner envelopes with the person’s title, first and last name and the phrase “and Guest”.

Do remember to include reply cards, so you can keep track of your guest count. Your RSVP date should be 2-3 weeks from your wedding date, so you have plenty of time to update your venue on your final headcount and minimize any last-minute stragglers.

Don’t forget to include postage (choose Forever stamps, if possible, to avoid any unforeseen postal rate increases). Weigh your completed invitation beforehand to determine the correct postage. Also ensure that your reply envelope size doesn’t require special extra postage. On a strict budget?  Consider adding a line to your invitations that allow guests to RSVP online instead.

Do send out save-the-dates if your plan on a long engagement, destination wedding or plan to invite several out-of-town guests who’ll need plenty of time to make travel arrangements.

Don’t bother with save-the-dates if you plan on a short engagement or your wedding date is less than six months away.

Do invite anyone who attended your engagement party or wedding showers. It’s rude to invite guests to a pre-wedding event but not the actual wedding.

Drinking Games at the Rehearsal Dinner?

Wednesday, October 13th, 2010


Today, we dip into the mailbag to answer that ever important rehearsal dinner etiquette question: is it OK to play drinking games? And since today happens to be our guest blogger day over at, we’re sharing our answer here.


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Why Seating Charts are Stressful: OneWed’s Local Flavor

Monday, January 11th, 2010

One of the most stressful aspects of wedding planning (the dreaded wedding etiquette) is often one of the last things you do, assigning people to tables at the reception. If you’re a guy who knows his way around a spreadsheet, this task may fall to you. So, it’s a good idea to know what the stressors are.

The first thing that you’ll want to do is talk to your parents and your bride’s parents and find out if there are any sensitivities you should know about. For example, will Great Uncle Morton be offended if he isn’t seated with your parents? Will Aunt Gertrude and Aunt Rosie start throwing plates if they sit next to each other? Keep in mind your own friends’ dramas as well. While groups of friends do not necessarily have to sit together, you should avoid leaving one friend out in the cold while everyone else is together.

Hey, I didn’t say it was going to be easy, I just said you should be prepared!

In addition to serving as OneWed’s VP of Marketing, Jennifer Napier is a guest contributor to the GroomsAdvice blog offering a little local flavor for the grooms. You can connect with Jennifer on Google+ and Twitter.

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