Hands up if you’ve ever heard a girl complain that “You never listen”?

Personally, I’m with you. I have a really hard time just listening to someone complain! But, I’m a gal, so over the years, I’ve learned the number one phrase to make a girl feel like you’ve listened to her.  I will share it with you now:

“Really, she said that? That sucks.”

Need proof? Check out these two possible conversations:

The WRONG way

Her: We can’t afford to have our invitations addressed by a calligrapher! I’m so pissed!

You: So, why don’t we just address the invitations ourselves?

Her: Didn’t you hear what I just said? I’m really upset about this. You never listen to me. Our invitations set the tone for the wedding and you want to scribble the addresses on them with crayons?

The RIGHT Way

Her: We can’t afford to have our invitations addressed by a calligrapher! I’m so pissed!

You: Really, calligraphy costs that much? That totally sucks. (pause) Hey, here’s an idea, what if we look into some other options? Maybe I could do that.

Her: I guess there might be a different way to do it. Hey, want a beer?

See with that one phrase you’ve repeated back what she said, now she feels listened to and validated, and you can go ahead and fix the problem. You both win.

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