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Going Stag: Stephen Stagliano’s Wedding [Part 1]

Monday, January 9th, 2012

Let’s get one thing straight. This is not an interview. This is two guys (great ones, actually) talking weddings and marriage. A huge thanks to guest correspondent Earl Anderson (Mr. Frostings) and Stephen Stagliano for choosing us as the forum to publish this piece. The next time someone tells you that guys don’t care about weddings, direct them to this post. Photos are courtesy of Callaway Gable, please do not steal/crop!

Stephen Stagliano is quite a guy. If you’re not convinced, ask around. His former students in Santa Clarita, CA will tell you. So will his brother, Michael Stagliano. Michael was last season’s co-winner of Bachelor Pad and suitor of Jillian Harris on The Bachelorette. More importantly to Stephen, he is his twin, his best friend and was the best man at his wedding. Michael gave, what was in my opinion, the best wedding speech I have ever heard.  If that speech was exaggerated, then Stephen has me fooled. Humble, straightforward and sincere, Stephen is exactly what he appears to be.

Stephen Stagliano groom wedding photo

So, what could possibly draw this church going, unassuming man to the red carpet? Enter DeAnna Pappas.

DeAnna chased reluctant Bachelor, Brad Womack, all the way to the finale of The Bachelor, season 11, then was famously named The Bachelorette on The Ellen Show. When DeAnna’s final choice turned out to be more of a frog than a Prince, her journey brought her to the arms of our hero.

Married October 22nd 2011, DeAnna and Stephen have set out to prove that two very normal people can build a traditional and loving marriage in Hollywood…. and dance their butts off while doing it.

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Mr. Frostings: Being married is the natural result of getting married. Sounds like a no-brainer, but waking up married is still quite a shock to the system for many grooms. When did it hit you that all this wedding business was really just the beginning?

Stephen Stagliano: First of all, thank you for the kind words, Earl. That was a wonderful recap of my life these past few years. I was certainly happy to have you and Mrs. Frostings as part of that journey. I agree, Michael’s best man speech was one of the best I had ever heard and one of the happiest moments of my life…. next to marrying DeAnna of course.

Before answering your question I want to say “I LOVE being married”. I find that many cliché’s are true, the most important of which is that I feel complete having committed myself to the woman of my dreams. To answer your question directly, I realized that the wedding was just the beginning on our way TO the honeymoon…it’s a bit of a funny story.

When we arrived at the airport at 7:30am we went to the Delta check in counter for our 10am flight to Belize. When we ran my passport it did not scan correctly. Several years ago while back packing through Thailand it was damaged in a severe rainstorm (that is another good story). About 3 months prior to our airport check in DeAnna told me that I should get a new one. I reassured her that it would be fine as I had traveled several times with the same passport internationally, and the airlines would just type in the number off my passport once it did not scan. This was NOT the case at Delta as two months prior to our flight Delta changed their passport policy to no longer accept damaged passports of ANY kind….ooohh *&$%.

We joke around about it now, saying that DeAnna almost filed for divorce on the first day of our marriage, hahaha, but at the time it was awful.  In hindsight it ended up being a blessing in disguise. We went back to Serenbe and had a wonderful time with our family and friends, where we were able to unwind and reminisce about all of the happenings of our wedding. I was also very sick and was able to get to a wellness clinic the same day I got a new passport. In addition, Hurricane Rina was barreling towards the Belizean coast and we would have been in danger had we made it there when we were planned to arrive.

What a wonderful example of real marriage that we were given, literally on the first day of our lives together. I dare say our vows were put to the test, hahaha. I do not think I have ever seen DeAnna so mad, but everything worked out beautifully and we ended up having a safe, healthy, and un-belizable honeymoon.

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My questions to you, Mr. Frostings, is how long did it take you to settle in to your marriage with Leslie? By comparison, things are still fresh and new and fun for DeAnna and I right now, so I am wondering how long that lasts.

MrF: Next to falling asleep on your honeymoon, messing with a bride’s much-needed rest after a wedding is grounds for divorce!

Good groom question, by the way. Leslie and I are very lucky. We are both very affectionate, both very PDA, and both slow to anger. Since this is a second marriage for both of us, we appreciate what we have found together. I never leave the house without kissing her goodbye.  She calls my office when she wakes up. To answer your question directly, I believe that the love doesn’t fade over time, just our willingness to live it. I try to remember that love is an action. As long as I’m willing to live in our marriage, live in the love I feel for her, she will always feel it.

Your wedding process was a little different than most. Dealing with the press, sneaky little paparazzi, and demands of the Bachelor Family had to be difficult. Looking back, what was the most stressful part of the planning process?

SS: Wow, I love what you said. Love is an action. I am going to steal that if you don’t mind! I need to read the book you should write on love and marriage, hahaha.

deanna pappas stephen stagliano wedding day

Our wedding process was a little out of the ordinary. It was strange how some expected stress was removed and problems appeared where we least expected them! A perfect example of this is our experience with you, Earl! Once we met with you and Leslie we knew we had nothing at all to worry about, which was so nice. Thanks to your recommendations, we had vendors reach out to us for photography, video, our flowers, and creating our invitations and other paper goods, which was wonderful. It turned out that all our vendors were wonderful! I think an added stress of wedding planning is simply choosing which vendors you are going to go with. We skipped right past that step by having an amazing wedding vendor (Fantasy Frostings) take care of us.

Ironically enough, it was the press that added on unexpected stress.  Several things stand out. I remember DeAnna and I could not “release” our engagement because at the time we were under contract with a production company to shoot a reality show with DeAnna, Michael, Holly and I called “Four Better or Worse.” That was really hard on us. DeAnna could not wear her ring out and we could only tell close family about our engagement.

Press was also a bit of an issue as we were not sure who to go with and what the best avenue would be. The Bachelor Family wanted to cover the wedding, but they were right in the middle of filming the next season with Ben so several of our friends from the show could not come.

The pinnacle of stress for our wedding with press was on the wedding day. We had discussed having security at our wedding, but never did I think paparazzi would come all the way to Atlanta and all the way to Serenbe for the photos. Low and behold four different guys showed up! To answer your question, this was the most stressful part for me. DeAnna was really upset and I was very angry. I actually sent my groomsmen out on Paparazzi Police Patrol to canvas the area!  The actual police came a few minutes later and found two other guys in the woods around our venue, but one still managed to elude them and get away with a few photos.  Crazy.

As I write this, I can’t help but realize that none of what I talked about was stress from wedding planning, but rather about the press. Hahaha. DeAnna and I ran in to a few stressors that are typical, like the wedding list and seating chart, but that is all. DeAnna did an unbelievable job and handled everything beautifully.

Earl, I had the privilege of being a guest at your wedding to Leslie and it was honestly one of my most favorite weddings. Not that this is a point of comparison, but I thought it would be an interesting point of conversation that where DeAnna and I chose to do the full on southern wedding extravaganza, you and Leslie had a simple back yard barbecue wedding. Both were wonderful. It calls into question, from the guy’s perspective, what are the common denominators to having a great wedding? I will let you answer first ;)

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MrF: The mythical “Great Wedding”, huh? You’ll have better luck finding The Great Pumpkin. A great wedding can only be found in hindsight. Today’s couples are unique in their own special ways. Our wedding was perfect for us. A backyard BBQ with friends and family was our perfect day.  Your wedding was all about family and friends too, but it also visualized you two as a couple perfectly. The key to making a great wedding for any couple is a great wedding planner. It needs to be someone you trust and someone with the empathy to feel your vision and the skill to make it a reality. I preach this to brides at every opportunity. If you want to enjoy your wedding day, there is no better investment.

Now that you are almost a wedding expert, what advice will you give your brother Michael when he begins to plan his big day?

SS: Oh man, that is a loaded question! I think my first piece of advice would be something for him to say to his wife… “What can I do to help?”

DeAnna loved when I offered to help. The reality is that the woman takes care of most of the preparations.  I was very involved in the seating chart (good for the man to do) and the DJ play list (great for a man to do). All other things I just offered to help when I could or offered my opinion/advice when it was welcomed and/or wanted.

The other piece of advice that I would offer to my brother is that he needs to be the rock and foundation of the whole production. I found myself saying things like “Everything is going to be fine.” “Everything is going to be beautiful and perfect.” “Everything will work out.” I think it is very easy for the brides to get caught in the trees and lose sight of the forest sometimes. It can be very beneficial for the groom to be calm, assertive, and have faith that everything will work out just fine.

Oh and one last thing…the bride is always right!


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I can’t think of a more appropriate place to leave part 1 than at “the bride is always right.” Give that statement a night to sink in and then come back tomorrow morning for the epic conclusion of Going Stag. Not that you should need any extra coaxing to do that, but we’ll be featuring video of Stephen and his groomsmen dancing at the reception. So, no excuses!

Groom Shares the Love with a Mario Brothers Themed Proposal

Friday, September 30th, 2011

Our friends at Robbins Brothers have just announced the five winners of its Share The Love video contest which asked grooms to share their videotaped marriage proposal for a chance to win $1,000 and possibly star in an upcoming Robbins Brothers commercial. The campaign showcased the exact moment someone gets engaged and the intense emotion associated with it, specifically the girlfriend’s reaction in which most cases she covers her face indicating overwhelming surprise and happiness.

For example, take a look at this Super Mario Brothers themed proposal that was among the five winners:

To read more about the contest and the winners, check out the official press release from RB.

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Which of the five winning proposals was your favorite? Do you have an extraordinary proposal planned? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Bridesmaids: Why Hangover II Should Be Worried

Friday, May 13th, 2011

Thinking of taking in a movie this weekend? Brian from The Groom Says weighs in on why, despite its name, Bridesmaids might be just the right choice for guys. Here’s his groom-approved take:

There are a few emails floating out there in cyberspace. Your wife or fiancee or girlfriend may have received one, and if so, it’s highly likely that she forwarded it to you. It says something to the tune of it is critical that this film, made up primarily of female comedians, does well in the box office because … reason, reason, reason … etc., etc.

But those emails are needless, and Bridesmaids has nothing to worry about. The film is a riot. It’s gonna soar this weekend. It’ll go like this: woman drags reluctant man to the theater; man surprisingly enjoys movie; man gives thumbs up to other man friends.

The secret to its success? To start, there’s the slew of solid comedic performances. And then the pairing of some hilarious comediennes with an ambitious script by Kristen Wiig and Annie Mumolo (who makes a cameo in the film), topped with director Paul Feig (who’s directed some of the best TV in the last seven years) and producers Apatow and Mendel. It’s a powerhouse ensemble that results in two hours of girls doing and saying boyishly obscene things in girly situations.

Not good enough for you? Fine. Here’s 5 reasons why guys need not be ashamed to see Bridesmaids:

1. Jon Hamm is an A**hole. Put Don Draper in a supporting role in a raunchy rom-com? Sure thing. Cast him as the absolute swill of the earth, saying things that make him worthy of a muzzle? We couldn’t ask for anything more.

2. Very simply, Melissa McCarthy. McCarthy plays Megan, the most outspoken and unpredictable bridesmaid. Megan oozes confidence, has a ferocious sexual appetite, and shares the best idea for a bachelorette party that we’ve heard in years. The character might be the perfect blend of Marla Hooch (A League of Their Own) and beloved Hangover hero, Zach Galifianakis. Without McCarthy, the film probably wouldn’t work. Luckily, the filmmakers capitalize on her head-on humor and make Megan a consistent presence throughout the movie.

3. The dress fitting. You pray for a scene like the dress fitting. Don’t worry, I wouldn’t dare give anything away. But what occurs in that dress shop could easily rival some of the best scatological moments in cinematic history. I really can’t say another word.

4. This is not a movie about wedding planning, and thank god for that. There are no scenes in which Rudolph and Wiig hunt down venues and argue over sconces. No big blow-up because the groom doesn’t show up at the tasting (hell, we hardly even get to know the guy). If anything, Bridesmaids makes a point to mock tradition and formalities and all the ostentatious things that men hate about weddings and showers. We’re genuinely impressed.

5. The parting gift. At the close of the first Hangover, Todd Phillips revealed all of the uncensored digital pics from the guys’ missing camera. In Bridesmaids, we get something else entirely, and honestly (if you’re still undecided at that point), it may just win you over.

Are there misses? Sure. We could’ve used some more Wendi McLendon-Covey (Reno 911 fans may be disappointed), whose foul-mouthed Rita gets shorted on screen time. And the humor may dip three-quarters of the way through for the sake of the storyline. But as a whole, it’s really, really funny. And we can’t wait to see what must be three hours worth of improvisation and deleted scenes.

Hey, hopefully the Thai edition of “What the Hell Happened Last Night?” will exceed our expectations and not fail to impress like many crappy sequels gone by. All I know is, based on what I saw last night, The Hangover: Part II has some mighty big high heels to fill.

Bridesmaids is in theaters everywhere today, May 13th. See the trailer at

Brian Leahy is founder of The Groom Says — a safe haven for grooms who need a hand with wedding planning and brides who need a hand with their grooms. Check out the blog for some laughs and inspiration, and be sure to follow The Groom Says on Twitter and Google+.

The Hangover 2: How to Make it Happen for Yourself

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

James Bennett from Firefly Group Events drops by the blog today with instructions on how to recreate The Hangover: Part 2 for your own bachelor party. If you somehow happen to pull this off, please send photos.

The Hangover: Part 2

Phil, Stu and Alan are back in The Hangover: Part 2

Phil, Stu, and Alan showed us that bachelor parties can be more than a few drinks and strip clubbing. Between the lost baby, tiger, and naked man in the trunk the Hangover gave bachelor parties something to aspire to. A special kind of forward regression that struck a self-destructive chord in our man-souls. In a few short weeks Hangover 2 will once again shatter all of our expectations for the ultimate bachelor party. To prepare you for your own hangover style party, we’ve put together a package that pays homage to Hangover 2. With this package, you too can wake up in Thailand with a face tattoo and a monkey.

Get there – $1000-$3000
This will be your only sober action since it is pre-trip. We checked and found that the best time to terroize the Thai starts in November. So a quick search on Expedia found flights that start at $1039.90

The Monkey – $1000-$3000
Yes. A monkey is not only possible, it’s encouraged. Not only that, you can party hard with the monkey from Pirates of the Carribean. This monkey is a hard drinking fool so watch your wallet and your women. This little guy is stateside but we’re betting you could smuggle the little guy in via carry on. Just tell everyone he’s an upright chihuahua you rescued. We always see barbies with their stupid lapdogs on the plane so it’s possible.

Another possible resource for monkeys is Greg. We can’t vouch for his possession of simeans but we respect the effort.

The Tattoo – $4.95-$500

Stu Mike Tyson tattoo

Stu can’t seem to catch a break.

A face tattoo a la Mike Tyson or Stu is not a decision to be made sober. In fact, after boarding the plane you should immediately max out your alcohol limit. This will set the stage for the BEST bachelor party your fiancee will hate to remember, EVER. Prior to that, take a sharpie and write the following addresses, one on each hand. That way, once you’ve passed out drunk somebody will see one of the addresses and take you there thinking it’s your hotel. We’ve passed along instructions to the artists to only give you a tribal face tattoo(you’re paying).

Bangkok Tattoo
Amarin Plaza, 3rd floor
Soi 4 – Thai Craft Market Zone
Bangkok, Thailand

Tu over at Siamese 5 Tattoo parlor said she’d charge about 9000 baht for the pleasure. However, she also said she never tattoos anyones face…

If you want to sissy out and go the non-permanent route you can but a temporary tattoo replica of Tyson and Stu’s tattoo here:

Mike Tyson – $99.95

Mr. Tyson is an impressionable young man but he’s also a bit unstable. As such, we are not advocating his actual involvement in your post landing chaos. Instead, try bringing your very own Mike Tyson. Here’s a couple of companies that specialize in life-size cardboard cut-outs. It’s all the photo-ops without the chance of bodily harm.

The Sunglasses – $19.95

Alan Hangover Sunglasses

The perfect sunglasses to wear to the Jonas Brothers show.

No Hangover wannabe party is complete without the oh-so-cool shades that Alan sports in the movie.

Wolf T-Shirt – $19.99

No Hangover experience can be complete without proper clothing. Again we look to Alan’s example and give the wolf t-shirt our full recommendation. We found a great website, that takes itself very seriously, where you can purchase your own wolf pack gear.

The Rest of it

We’ve given you the basics. If you’re a purist you’ll need to find the tiger, naked man, roofies, random baby, and the chicken on your own. We know that you can do it if you put your mind and enough alcohol together. Never underestimate what you can accomplish when smashed and wandering in a foreign city.

James Bennett is co-founder of FireFly Bachelor Parties, a bachelor party planning company in California that plans parties throughout the United States. Check out what kind of trouble you can get into with their bachelor party packages at:

5 Questions With Kevin Cotter: Wedding Dress Destroyer

Sunday, February 13th, 2011
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The unofficial mascot of

It’s a toss-up between Juice Strainer and Litter Box Liner. No, I’m not talking about my least favorite chores around the house. I’m just trying to determine my personal favorite use that Tucson, AZ resident Kevin Cotter has found for his ex-wife’s wedding dress. And it’s a tough decision…

After their divorce last year, Cotter’s wife left behind her wedding dress. Unsure of what he should do with it, he brought up the subject at a family dinner. “You should wipe your ass with it,” was the first suggestion he received — from his brother. While that wasn’t quite the solution he was looking for, it did prompt him to start formulating a list of funny uses for the dress. Somewhere between Matador Cape and Grill Apron, the idea for the My Ex-Wife’s Wedding Dress blog was born.

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Dress Use #53: Matador Cape

The blog’s mission is to document 101 uses for the dress. He’s currently up to #72 and taking suggestions for the remaining slots. I recently had the opportunity to ask Kevin a few questions about it:

Has your ex-wife seen the blog? Do you know what she thinks about it?
KC: I told my ex-wife about the blog after the first day of major traffic.  She isn’t the site’s biggest fan.  The story I tell on my blog is about me and an unconventional healing process that involves my ex-wife’s wedding dress.  I’m not out to get my ex-wife.

What’s the strangest use that’s been suggested by a reader?
KC: That’s a tough one.  I had one guy contact me who wanted me to bring the dress to Alabama so he could shoot it out of a cannon to promote a website he was launching.  I think pretty much everything has been suggested at this point.  I have to moderate the comments on my blog because quite a few of them are X-rated.

Of the 72 uses so far, do you have a personal favorite?
KC: The Darth Vader scarecrow is still my favorite picture of the bunch, but there are a few more that I really like.

Have you dated since the divorce? If so, what has the reaction been to your blog?
KC: I have dated since my divorce and am actually making plans to get married this year.  My fiancee understands my project and that I am going to finish what I started.  She is also well aware that I’m over my ex.  It was hard to explain at first, as I’m sure you can imagine.  When we met I was already half-way through taking all my pictures.  “So, you see sweetheart . . . I’m taking hundreds, potentially thousands, of pictures with my ex-wife’s wedding dress.”  It wasn’t an easy  sell at first but after witnessing it first-hand she understood it and sees the humor in it.  She is very supportive.

In reflecting about your previous marriage, what would be your No. 1 tip for grooms preparing to say “I do”?
KC: This question is difficult for me because I feel very strongly that there is nothing I could have done differently to save my marriage.  My #1 advice would be to realize that marriage requires a lot of work – the first years might be a breeze but it will get more challenging.  Also, if you sense things are heading the wrong direction see a counselor – make sure you both want to put in the effort to get things back on track.  Lastly, if you wake up one day and discover your wife wants out – try to keep her wedding dress.  These wedding dresses are good for so many things.

A few other favorite uses:

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Dress Use #56: Fishing Net

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Dress Use #15: Sporting Event Banner

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Dress Use #26: Hammock

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Keep tabs on Kevin’s mission by following him on Twitter and liking him on Facebook. Also, keep an eye out for a book this fall that he promises will expand on the dress uses from the website.

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