Posts Tagged ‘Strippers’

The Knotty Bride on Coed Bachelor(ette) Partying

Wednesday, March 20th, 2013

A few weeks back, we asked our expert panel about their thoughts on coed bachelor(ette) partying. As expected, responses were mixed on this tricky topic. To help settle the score, we’ve asked one of our favorite wedding bloggers to stop by and lay down the law.

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This counts as coed, right?

By Alison, The Knotty Bride

It’s hard to answer coed bachelor(ette) party question without stating some stuff straight out.  So, facts:

1.  Not all men are interested in hanging out with strippers for their bachelor party.  Women realize this and this response is not about you.

2. Lots of men don’t plan on really *thoroughly* enjoying themselves at their bachelor parties, but the thing is this: if there’s an attractive barely dressed woman in the room and she’s offering to trade you a beej for a Benjamin, let’s be honest that’s a tough thing to turn down for some people.  One’s love for one’s chosen partner doesn’t even play into this; a man can be head over heels forever in love with his beloved and still consider capitalizing on a quality offer like that.  Especially when sex and temptation is THE POINT OF THE OUTING.  Plus, beej’s seem great, from what I know about them.

Ok, so here’s my answer: Joint parties seem fine I guess if you’re into them.  It just seems like it’s more a solution to a problem than a fun new party idea we should seriously consider.  Please don’t misread me- I imagine coed parties have tons of fun potential, just as long as they aren’t the result of a fight over having separate parties.  Are both partners on board with the idea, in their heart of hearts? Then that spells a great time and obviously they like spending time with one another, who can argue against that?  Still this is probably a best fit for couples who have some trust issues they’re working out.  If a guy has given a girl legitimate reason to distrust him around other women, for fuck’s sake don’t make her go through you having a legit bachelor party.  Go somewhere strippers can’t be found/shipped in.  That’s love.

Since this question is so obviously about the elephant in the room – strip club bachelor parties (or the thing where the stripper comes to your place) I have to make a final note.  As women, we don’t want to come off jealous or controlling, so we sometimes make believe we’re comfortable with a thing even when we BEYOND AREN’T comfortable with that thing.  Stripper bachelor parties out of our line of vision are at the top of that list.  Right next to obliterating our vaginal canals through the miracle of childbirth, and paintball.

What we are doing when we have “a traditional bachelor party,” is we are asking our partners to see that we are spending a night out with our guy friends with the express purpose of living it up like a bachelor.  Sticking with tradition, this means spending between a night and a week of nights exclusively with a group of our horniest male friends, all of whom have been dreaming about that next time they get to go to a bachelor party.  And then sitting in a room with low-hanging fruit in the form of dangling boobies and nipples, and challenging yourself not to suckle them for an extra $50 (not sure how accurate that price is it’s been a while since I last stepped foot into a strip club).

To wrap up: I believe in separate parties as much as I believe in joint parties.  I like separate parties for the reason that men, like women, thrive among friends.  Time with friends without the S.O. there is like medicine for men and women.  It’s that important.  So guys, we are totally into your gender-exclusive bachelor parties and want you to have fun.  Just do us a solid and don’t pull one of these.

Which side of the fence do you stand on: joint or separate parties? Leave a comment below with your thoughts.

Ask the Wedding Babe: Strippers at the Bachelor Party

Monday, March 21st, 2011

after a brief hiatus, the wedding babe returns today to take on another reader question. This week, she gives her thoughts on the consequences of hiding bachelor party strippers from your bride-to-be.

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Do your bachelor party plans include strippers?

Q -  I want strippers at my bachelor party, but my fiancée hates the idea. Should I hide it from her?

Ah, the age-old bachelor party dilemma. You want to celebrate your final days of singledom with poles and tassels, but your fiancée isn’t having it. What’s a guy to do? Although lying to her may seem like the easiest solution, do yourself a favor and don’t. While some guys might think that what happens at the bachelor party stays at the bachelor party, the truth almost always has a way of getting out eventually — and causing you some serious heartache with your fiancée later on. Trust me, it’s much better to let her in on your plans ahead of time, whatever they may be.

Not sure how to broach the subject? Try having a conversation about your bachelor party with her when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood. (Bringing this up when you’re already arguing = bad idea.) Be honest about what kind of bachelor party you have in mind, even if it means a trip to the strip club, and then listen to her feelings on the subject. Maybe she just needs to hear from you that this is all in good fun and that it won’t in any way affect your feelings for her or your impending nuptials. Even if she still hates the idea and you agree to disagree, you’ve laid your cards on the table.

However, if you lie about it and she finds out later (which is usually inevitable), be prepared to deal with the pre-wedding firestorm. We’ve all heard the horror stories of weddings being called off at the last minute because of this exact situation. Don’t let this happen to you. If you lie about the bachelor party, she may wonder what else you’ll lie about once you’re married. The best policy is to be honest and keep the peace.

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Do your bachelor party plans involve strippers? Are you going to be telling your fiancée about them? Share your story in the comments section below.

The Next Best Thing to Strippers at the Bachelor Party

Monday, August 9th, 2010

We can’t say we blame the bride if she’s not into the concept of strippers at her groom’s bachelor party. The Best Man should always keep in mind that it’s important to respect her feelings on the issue by not telling her skipping the strip club portion of the stag night if she’s against it. HOWEVER, that doesn’t necessarily have to mean that bouncing boobs can’t be a part of the fun on the big night. We’ve discovered a new company that is marketing a series of gag gifts with bachelor parties in mind. We’re of course talking about


Bobble Babes offers gag and novelty style gifts that are ideal for presenting to the groom at the bachelor party. These aren’t your typical bobble-head items in that it’s not the head of the doll that’s bobbing… it’s the chest (see what we mean when we call them an alternative to the strip club).

Offering beer can koozies, hats and golf club covers, Bobble Babes runs the gamut for bachelor party novelty items. We also think they’d be a hit at your next BBQ, tailgate party or weekend trip to the lake. Head on over to the official Bobble Babes store to check our their complete product line now.

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How to Make Her Feel Comfortable with Your Bachelor Party

Friday, April 23rd, 2010
The bachelor party: the ultimate trust test

The bachelor party: the ultimate trust test

By Becky Thomas, Weddingistas

No matter how confident and trusting a girl is, there is always that little fear about what will go on at her fiancé’s bachelor party. It certainly doesn’t help with movies like The Hangover, which consist of quickie weddings to strippers, Mike Tyson’s tiger, and a missing tooth and groom. But, there is something you can do to get your girl to relax about your big night out.

First, talk to her about it. Try to really understand what she is worried about. Maybe she doesn’t trust your crazy cousin Brian and the trouble that seems to follow him. Or maybe the thought of you hanging around strippers completely creeps her out. Whether or not her fears are valid doesn’t matter. It just matters that you talk to her about them and try to get her to relax. Tell her that while Brian can be crazy at times, you will have a lot of other sensible friends to keep him in check. And if a strip club is in your future, explain to her that you won’t be touchy feely and that it is more of a tradition than anything. (Be forewarned, while I didn’t care if my fiancé went to a strip club, some girls just can’t get past this. Find out how she really feels and you might need some time to have her get used to the idea).

Do you really want to be on the other end of this call?

Do you really want to be on the other end of this call?

Then don’t talk about it again. Seriously. She doesn’t want to know that for your “last night of freedom”  you plan on getting wrecked with your friends in Las Vegas. That will only make her more nervous about what is to come. If you play it cool (and tell your friends to do the same), chances are she won’t think it is that big of a deal and will be less concerned.

Call her. It might take a bit of your pride, but why not give her a call (just one) at some point of the night to let her know that you are a.) still alive b.) still coherent enough to dial c.) thinking of her.  Try to not be in a bar at the time so all she hears is “Pour Some Sugar on Me” in the background. Keep it light, upbeat and quick. Then go about your night.

Limit pictures. I don’t find too many guys bringing their camera out to the bar, so this might be easy. But in the day and age where a picture can end up on Facebook in a matter of seconds, try to keep it PG. You don’t want your poor fiancé sitting at home on Facebook and find you in between two cocktail waitresses making faces. It’s just poor taste really.

The best thing I can say is to be honest and upfront with her. She will be more upset if she found out you went somewhere you said you weren’t. You don’t want an angry bridezilla on your hands!


Becky Thomas is the co-founder of the wedding blog Weddingistas, where they provide all types of wedding information and advice. Becky also co-owns Weddingistas, LLC a wedding planning group that specialized in sensibly chic events.

Your Bachelor Party: How to Have Fun… and Stay Engaged

Monday, December 28th, 2009


Let me just be clear, different women have different opinions about strippers and bachelor parties. Some, really don’t care, but a lot, really do. If you think your fiancée might be less than happy about the idea of you getting a lap dance then you need to sit down with her and get some ground rules.

Find out what her concerns are, what her limits are, and what she does and doesn’t want to know about. Or, for an even better “conversation,” ask her to play the part of the bachelor party entertainer and “show you” what is and isn’t acceptable.


In addition to serving as OneWed’s VP of Marketing, Jennifer Napier is a guest contributor to the GroomsAdvice blog offering a little local flavor for the grooms. You can connect with Jennifer on Google+ and Twitter.

This question is for the brides-to-be: would you allow your soon-to-be hubby to enter a strip club during his bachelor party? Share your thoughts in the comment area below.

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