after a brief hiatus, the wedding babe returns today to take on another reader question. This week, she gives her thoughts on the consequences of hiding bachelor party strippers from your bride-to-be.

Do your bachelor party plans include strippers?

Q -  I want strippers at my bachelor party, but my fiancée hates the idea. Should I hide it from her?

Ah, the age-old bachelor party dilemma. You want to celebrate your final days of singledom with poles and tassels, but your fiancée isn’t having it. What’s a guy to do? Although lying to her may seem like the easiest solution, do yourself a favor and don’t. While some guys might think that what happens at the bachelor party stays at the bachelor party, the truth almost always has a way of getting out eventually — and causing you some serious heartache with your fiancée later on. Trust me, it’s much better to let her in on your plans ahead of time, whatever they may be.

Not sure how to broach the subject? Try having a conversation about your bachelor party with her when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood. (Bringing this up when you’re already arguing = bad idea.) Be honest about what kind of bachelor party you have in mind, even if it means a trip to the strip club, and then listen to her feelings on the subject. Maybe she just needs to hear from you that this is all in good fun and that it won’t in any way affect your feelings for her or your impending nuptials. Even if she still hates the idea and you agree to disagree, you’ve laid your cards on the table.

However, if you lie about it and she finds out later (which is usually inevitable), be prepared to deal with the pre-wedding firestorm. We’ve all heard the horror stories of weddings being called off at the last minute because of this exact situation. Don’t let this happen to you. If you lie about the bachelor party, she may wonder what else you’ll lie about once you’re married. The best policy is to be honest and keep the peace.

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Do your bachelor party plans involve strippers? Are you going to be telling your fiancée about them? Share your story in the comments section below.

We can’t say we blame the bride if she’s not into the concept of strippers at her groom’s bachelor party. The Best Man should always keep in mind that it’s important to respect her feelings on the issue by not telling her skipping the strip club portion of the stag night if she’s against it. HOWEVER, that doesn’t necessarily have to mean that bouncing boobs can’t be a part of the fun on the big night. We’ve discovered a new company that is marketing a series of gag gifts with bachelor parties in mind. We’re of course talking about Bobblebabes.com.

Bobble Babes offers gag and novelty style gifts that are ideal for presenting to the groom at the bachelor party. These aren’t your typical bobble-head items in that it’s not the head of the doll that’s bobbing… it’s the chest (see what we mean when we call them an alternative to the strip club).

Offering beer can koozies, hats and golf club covers, Bobble Babes runs the gamut for bachelor party novelty items. We also think they’d be a hit at your next BBQ, tailgate party or weekend trip to the lake. Head on over to the official Bobble Babes store to check our their complete product line now.

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The bachelor party: the ultimate trust test

By Guest Blogger Becky Thomas of Weddingistas

No matter how confident and trusting a girl is, there is always that little fear about what will go on at her fiancé’s bachelor party. It certainly doesn’t help with movies like The Hangover, which consist of quickie weddings to strippers, Mike Tyson’s tiger, and a missing tooth and groom. But, there is something you can do to get your girl to relax about your big night out.

First, talk to her about it. Try to really understand what she is worried about. Maybe she doesn’t trust your crazy cousin Brian and the trouble that seems to follow him. Or maybe the thought of you hanging around strippers completely creeps her out. Whether or not her fears are valid doesn’t matter. It just matters that you talk to her about them and try to get her to relax. Tell her that while Brian can be crazy at times, you will have a lot of other sensible friends to keep him in check. And if a strip club is in your future, explain to her that you won’t be touchy feely and that it is more of a tradition than anything. (Be forewarned, while I didn’t care if my fiancé went to a strip club, some girls just can’t get past this. Find out how she really feels and you might need some time to have her get used to the idea).

Do you really want to be on the other end of this call?

Then don’t talk about it again. Seriously. She doesn’t want to know that for your “last night of freedom”  you plan on getting wrecked with your friends in Las Vegas. That will only make her more nervous about what is to come. If you play it cool (and tell your friends to do the same), chances are she won’t think it is that big of a deal and will be less concerned.

Call her. It might take a bit of your pride, but why not give her a call (just one) at some point of the night to let her know that you are a.) still alive b.) still coherent enough to dial c.) thinking of her.  Try to not be in a bar at the time so all she hears is “Pour Some Sugar on Me” in the background. Keep it light, upbeat and quick. Then go about your night.

Limit pictures. I don’t find too many guys bringing their camera out to the bar, so this might be easy. But in the day and age where a picture can end up on Facebook in a matter of seconds, try to keep it PG. You don’t want your poor fiancé sitting at home on Facebook and find you in between two cocktail waitresses making faces. It’s just poor taste really.

The best thing I can say is to be honest and upfront with her. She will be more upset if she found out you went somewhere you said you weren’t. You don’t want an angry bridezilla on your hands!

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Becky Thomas is the co-founder of the wedding blog Weddingistas, where they provide all types of wedding information and advice. Becky also co-owns Weddingistas, LLC a wedding planning group that specialized in sensibly chic events.

Guest Blogger Profile: Jennifer Napier of OneWed.com

Let me just be clear, different women have different opinions about strippers and bachelor parties. Some, really don’t care, but a lot, really do. If you think your fiancée might be less than happy about the idea of you getting a lap dance then you need to sit down with her and get some ground rules.

Find out what her concerns are, what her limits are, and what she does and doesn’t want to know about. Or, for an even better “conversation,” ask her to play the part of the bachelor party entertainer and “show you” what is and isn’t acceptable.

Today we’re pumped to have one of our favorite groom bloggers contributing a guest post. If you haven’t checked out Temple of Groom yet, stop everything and do so now (actually read this post first, then go).

by SuperDave (templeofgroom.com)
I recently attended my first Vegas bachelor party (and actually my first bachelor party total).  In the grand scheme of things it was tame compared to what I’ve seen in movies – no animal “shows” or sacrifices, no high speed chases or little Asian mafia men jumping from car trunks.  Just a lot of drinking, gambling, and a few strippers sprinkled on top.  Nothing really had to “stay in Vegas” that I couldn’t bring back to me in California though (which isn’t a such a bad thing).  I think it was a more realistic version of what we see in movies or on TV.  So I’ve come back with a six pack of tips for the newbies on the block who don’t really know what to expect.

1. Pay more to get your own bed. This was something I should have been more adamant about.  Because most of my friends are on a TIGHT budgets, we opted for the “how many guys can we cram into this room” approach.  Sure it was great that we only owed $40 for the room at the end of the weekend, but it really wasn’t worth sleeping with my ear infected buddy on top of me for a night.  During the bachelor party planning stages, you need to do everything in your power to insure that you will get your own bed.  Even if you only sleep for 45 minutes over 2 days like I did, it’s at least a COMFORTABLE 45 minutes.  Additionally, it’s not enough that you simply suggest this to your buddies (this is my fatal error), you seriously need to make this your bitness.  If that means  you put a few extra dollars down, it’ll be money well spent.  Find someone else that feels the same way and split a different 2 bed room with him.  Additionally, and this may be tip 1a, when picking a bed at the end of the night if you’re sharing a room, don’t assume that the bed with the messier sheets was the one that got “slept in” – do a more thorough ocular investigation.

We strongly agree with SuperDave. Get your own bed and room key.

2.  Get a key to your room. This was another fatal mistake I made.  I thought when I was ready to go back to the room certainly one of the guys w/ a room key would be next to me.  Looking back, I can’t believe how dumb I was for thinking I’d be able to track down 1 of 2 drunk friends in VEGAS while I was also extremely drunk.  If you get your own bed, or your own room, you most likely don’t have to worry about this, but if you’re like me and pile into a room with guys, don’t be surprised if the lone key bearer is nowhere to be found at the end of the night.  You could get screwed out of a bed all together if your name isn’t on the reservation and your buddy goes missing.

3.  Bring your own soap. This one is kind of a no-brainer, but I promise you, when you’re stepping into the shower, you’ll quickly smack yourself that you didn’t think about this sooner.  Also, it’s a good idea to go grab a towel either from the front desk or the pool.  Sharing a bed with a couple of guys is bad enough, sharing their soap is inexcusable.

4.  Bring more cash than you think you need, but not more than you can afford to lose. The only faster way to lose your money in Vegas rather than the slots is the casino/strip club ATM machines.  At the strip club, there was a $12 fee to take money out of their ATM.  That’s insane.  More often you’ll find yourself digging into your pockets for CASH not your credit card, and when you’re out, the only option is the ATMs.  It’s brutal.  If you’re out of cash, take your smart friends that brought cash out to lunch and pick up the bill on your credit card.  Your friends don’t charge the ATM fee.

When the night starts to resemble this image, it might be time to down a 5-Hour Energy

5.  Drink 5 Hour Energy. This product got me through the weekend.  No harsh crash when it’s wearing off, and the taste wasn’t bad!

6.  When you’re at the strip club, “the truth will set you free.” I found that there was no really nice extremely polite way to get the strippers I wasn’t interested in to leave me alone.  If I told them I wasn’t ready for a dance, they’d say “well I’ll wait next to you till you are ready.”  If you said that you just got there, they’d say “so what?”  There is just nothing you can say or do to get a girl to quickly stop badgering you except “I’m sorry, you’re pretty, but you’re not my type.”  Most of the time after saying this, she’d give me a nasty look, but the fact that she would leave me alone was an fair trade.