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Wedding Blogger Battle Royale: Round 5

Fatigue is setting in as our competitors come out of their respective corners for round 5 of the blogger battle royale. Who will crack first: Ian or Anne?

save the date debate

Round 5 – Save the date cards seem like a waste of money, do we have to send them?

Anne: Save-the-date cards are important to send when there’s a lot of travel details involved including air and hotel recommendations and discounts. When it comes to save the dates it’s important that you only send them to those guests you are 100% inviting to the wedding, because if someone gets one a formal invitation must follow.  If you want to save money, shorten the list of who gets a save the date.

An e-save the date is fine too, especially if budget is a concern, however an e-invitation to your wedding is a definite no no.

Ian: Is it too late to rephrase your question? It should really read, “Do you want anyone to attend your wedding?”  This isn’t college where you eat dinner and get on the AOL Instant Messenger to find out who is mixing up the Jungle Juice.  It is real life.  You remember real life, don’t you?  Yes, real life, where last month, I literally held my bladder for nine days because our calendar was too packed.  (And the worst part was that I was at a baseball game when I got my chance to go and stage-fright reared it’s ugly head.)

Save the dates are one of your early expenses, and at the time, $150 seems like a huge chunk of change…but when you look back on it after the wedding and realize that you just sold your car to pay for napkin rings, the Save the Dates will seem pretty insignificant, Ebenezer.

Since Anne & Ian halfway agree on this topic, why don’t you weigh in? If you think save the dates are unnecessary, tell us why.

Anne Chertoff has worked at Modern Bride, Martha Stewart Weddings, iVillage Weddings, and was the Editor in Chief of and AOL’s Royal Wedding web site. She currently writes wedding planning and style columns for several wedding sites including EquallyWed and WeddingWire. Follow Anne on Twitter.

Ian is the author of “A Groom’s Diary”, his journal chronicling the hilarity of the wedding-planning process…from the groom’s point of view.  Follow him on Twitter or Facebook.

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