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Wedding Blogger Battle Royale: Round 4

After a one-week break to lick their respective wounds, Ian and Anne are back for another round of wedding blogger battle royale. This week’s topic was actually proposed by Ian. He’s invented a new way to combat wedding planning disagreements. Will it stick?

wedding veto rule

Round 4 – The Veto Rule.  During the wedding-planning process, the bride and groom each get 3 vetoes which cannot be resented or questioned.  The other party can overturn 1 of those vetoes, but it costs them a veto.  Should you or shouldn’t you?

Ian: No question about it.  It’s the only way you’re going to keep the DJ from playing that “We Go Together” song from Grease that seems like it should make people dance, but actually just makes their ears bleed. One of my best friends vetoed a bridesmaid at his wedding (and then used a second veto to uninvite her entirely.)  Ballsiest thing I’ve ever heard of.

Anne: Are you kidding me?  What is this Congress?  There’s no veto power in wedding planning.  You’re getting married, so you should compromise and discuss issues just as you you should in your relationship.  Are you going to continue vetoing decisions until death do you part?

If someone has a problem with a decision than discuss it and see if you can work it out but don’t make your fiance feel bad by just demanding that you get your way — with or without a veto you sound like a bully.

And as for your example, I think it’s safe to say that you shouldn’t even hire a DJ who wants to play anything from Grease.

Would you institute a veto rule in your wedding planning? Why or why not? Tell us in the comment section below.

Anne Chertoff has worked at Modern Bride, Martha Stewart Weddings, iVillage Weddings, and was the Editor in Chief of and AOL’s Royal Wedding web site. She currently writes wedding planning and style columns for several wedding sites including EquallyWed and WeddingWire. Follow Anne on Twitter.

Ian is the author of “A Groom’s Diary”, his journal chronicling the hilarity of the wedding-planning process…from the groom’s point of view.  Follow him on Twitter or Facebook.

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