The Groom’s Ceremony Duties
While much of the groom’s wedding planning attention is focused on the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, he’ll also have a hand in several aspects of the marriage ceremony itself. The bride’s family does historically cover the majority of wedding day costs, however there are several ceremony-related expenses and responsibilities that the groom, his parents or a combination of both are traditionally expected to provide.
Keep in mind that while the line between “his side” and “her side” duties is becoming increasingly blurred, most couples still use a traditional list to begin divvying up planning tasks. Begin by determining how much, if any, monetary input you’ll be receiving from your parents. Then huddle up with them and go over this list of traditional groom duties and associated costs. For the wedding ceremony, the list isn’t long, but it’s quite important:
One of the groom’s traditional responsibilities is paying for the bride’s bouquet that she’ll carry down the aisle. Some guys will roll their eyes at this, but it’s actually a key ingredient to the bride’s overall look. Take it from a married man: You’ll never forget how you feel when you see her walking toward you, flowers in hand, ready to become your wife.
The groom is responsible for selecting the tuxedoes or suits that he and the wedding party will wear during the ceremony. He’ll need to coordinate local fittings and provide instructions to out-of-towners. It’s also a nice touch to cover any rental fees for both the groom’s own father and the father of the bride.
Marriage License and Clergy Fee
The law states that you must secure a marriage license before you can get married. Tradition states that the groom is the lucky one who gets to pay for it. Before you head down to the courthouse, be sure to check your state’s laws associated with marriage licenses. If you’re getting married in a church, the groom will also be expected to pay for the clergy fee and/or cash tip.
Arranging transportation to and from the ceremony also falls under the groom’s duties. Popular options include trolley cars, stretch limousines/SUVs and classic cars. This is truly an area for the groom to get creative.
Last but not least is something money can’t, or rather shouldn’t, buy: the wedding vows. If the bride and groom decide to pen original vows, it’s a good idea to get started writing them no later than two months before the wedding. If you’re selecting from a list of vows, review it carefully and choose the ones that most closely represent your feelings.
How will you be involved with the ceremony planning? Will you follow the duties listed above or will you be changing things up from tradition? Tell us in the comment section below.