Archive for March, 2012

The Best of the Web for Grooms – March 15, 2012

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

social networking wedding

With so many ways to utilize social media for wedding planning, it’s hard to keep them straight. This handy guide from Mashable outlines eight suggestions. We recommend checking out our groom’s Pinterest guide as well.

We’re humbled by the support that our new book has been receiving. If you haven’t picked up your copy yet, head on over to BravoBride where they’re giving two copies away via a blog contest. Not sure if you should enter? There are countless reasons for grooms to own the book. You can read about some of them in this terrific write-up from Wedding Republic.

Having trouble getting your tie knot perfect? It happens to the best of us, so don’t let it get you down. The latest helpful guide from Art of Manliness demonstrates how you can tie a four-in-hand knot in 60 seconds. If you’re opting for a bowtie, here’s a guide we found today on Pinterest.

Want to leave a one-of-a-kind mark on your wedding reception? You don’t need to spend a lot of money, you just need to get creative. How does a man cave area or photo montage sound? For those and other ideas, head on over to OneWed.

Last but not least, we’re going to let you in on a little secret. No matter how great of a marriage you have, there is inevitably going to be arguing. While it’s not fun, your tactics during an argument can actually go along way towards improving the overall health of your relationship. For examples and tips, check out AskMen’s Guide to Arguing in a Relationship.

What If I Don’t Have Anyone to Ask to be a Groomsman?

Monday, March 12th, 2012

Asking friends and family members to serve as members of your wedding party can be a very rewarding experience. However, location, money and other external factors can sometimes put the groom in tough spot when it comes to these decisions. Today we tackle a question from a reader who’s struggling to assemble his groomsmen.

groom in front of groomsmen

Q — What do I do if I have no one to ask to be a groomsman?

Believe it or not, this situation isn’t as uncommon as you might think. Whether your top choices for groomsmen can’t make it to the wedding because they’ve moved away or are serving in the military, you’re an only child or your sibling passed away or you’ve had a falling out with your buds in the last couple of years, sometimes choosing the members of your wedding party isn’t so easy. If you don’t have any obvious choices for your best man and groomsmen, such as close friends or brothers, don’t sweat it. First, there’s no rule that says you have to have more than one groomsman, or any, for that matter. But if you prefer to have at least one person standing beside you on your wedding day, consider these options for groomsmen: your father or grandfather; your fiancée’s father or grandfather; your fiancée’s brother or best guy friend; a cousin, uncle or other extended family member; college roommate; neighbor or church friend. There’s also no rule that says your groomsmen must be men. If you have a close female friend or family member, she can serve as your best woman or as a “groomsperson” and stand on your side of the altar during the ceremony.

Another great choice: man’s best friend. Why not have your dog serve as your best man for the big day? Spike, donning a tux, can either sit near the altar, rules permitting, or be walked down the aisle by a family member or friend. Either way, he’ll be there to cheer you on.

If these ideas aren’t quite your style, another option is to forgo groomsmen and bridesmaids altogether. There’s nothing wrong with an intimate wedding day focusing on just the two of you. Feel free to skip this tradition and do whatever works best for you and your bride.

Connect with post author Kara Horner on Google+, Pinterest and Twitter.

Are you struggling to find wedding party members? Tell us about it in the comment section below.

A Gentleman’s Guide to a Bachelor Party in …… Seattle??

Monday, March 12th, 2012

seattle bachelor party
Today brings a brand new guest post from one of the hottest groom bloggers on da block. Straight from the mean streets of the Emerald City, here’s Ian from A Groom’s Diary. Pay close attention Seattleites, this one’s for you.

The Hangover changed bachelor parties forever. While unrealistic and completely insane, it shed light on a world that women had always looked at with a crooked eye, wondering whether or not they were getting the whole story. So in a way, it raised the bar for anyone planning a bachelor party. Not only do you have to put together a weekend that makes guys salivate, you have to do it in a place that can be guised as a cultural, wholesome vacation so you don’t get a veto from the bride (read: NOT LAS VEGAS!)

Fortunately for men on the West Coast, there are a variety of options.

There are the “spas and sunshine” of LA and Scottsdale. TRANSLATION: “Silicone, clubs, and golf.”

There is the “harbor-city charm and unmatched cuisine” of San Diego and San Francisco. TRANSLATION: “Lululemon pants and bars that encourage shots before 10:00 AM.”

There is the “craft beer and international menus” of Portland and Vancouver, BC. TRANSLATION: “LOTS of craft beer and strip clubs that make Charlie Sheen blush.”

And of course there is the “coffee shops and progressive charm” of Seattle. TRANSLATION: “Uh…why are we going to Seattle?”.

Well there are two possible answers: A) like me, you live here and chose an uninspired Best Man or B) like me, you’re deathly afraid of your fiancée.

But let’s say you do wind up in the Emerald City. It’s a bachelor party! It can’t be all-bad, right? The where sucks, but won’t the Who, What, When, How and Why make up for it? Let’s investigate…

WHO: Every bachelor party has the same characters. The further you get from home, the smaller your group gets, but the more-pronounced the characters become. You’ll need at least one of each of the following:
Nervous Best Man: His wife trusts him and he’s a great guy, but his credit card is down on all of the weekend’s activities and he is frightened. (With good reason.)
Married Guy who Clearly Wants to get Divorced: Shots? “Two please.” Strip clubs? “Can we rent the whole place to ourselves?” Chasing college-aged girls around town and making another guy stay up with him at their place until 6 AM? We don’t even want to know…
Guy Married to one of the Bridesmaids who you Like but Don’t Completely Trust: Yes, he tells his wife about every trip to the restroom, but believe me, he’s not going to sell you out. In fact—by the end of the weekend, he and your Best Man may be the only two people you are speaking to.
And of course…
The Friend Who Disappears for the Entire Weekend: He’ll lose his cell phone in the cab from the airport, so make sure he’s carrying traveler’s checks…

WHEN: First off, don’t be the guy who has his bachelor party the week of his wedding. Even a pastor’s bachelor party requires two months of downtime before the bride is speaking to you again, so make sure you’re well in advance of the big day.

As far as Seattle goes, the summer normally stretches from the first weekend in August through the second weekend in August…so I’d aim for something in that range.

throwing fish at pike place market

Who needs stripppers when you can throw fish?

WHAT: Seattle has all kinds of places for us to spend time. … … Right? The Space Needle: I know. A restaurant/bar shaped like a spaceship that sits above the ocean and spins sounds like a cocktail of awesome, right? Well it’s great, but with a clientele that includes exactly no one between the ages of six and forty-six and a spin-rate that leaves vertigo patients asking them to “crank it up!” it has the bachelor-party-desirability of the Oxygen Network.

Throwing Fish at Pike Place Market: You’ve seen it on the Today Show and every time there is a major sporting event in the Seattle-area, and yes—it is hilarious, fun and unique. But if you come home from your bachelor party and your fiancée asks you what you did and you respond, “It was awesome. I caught a flying salmon at the Public Market!” go ahead and consider the wedding cancelled. Do not pass GO. Do not collect a wedding band. Even though you’re telling the truth, she will not buy it for a second, and you really can’t fault her for that.

Starbucks: You’re not really going to Starbucks because you’re in Seattle, are you? I love Starbucks. I go there 2-3 times a day. BUT SO DO YOU! There are eleven locations within two blocks of your home! If you want Starbucks, get it! But really? You’re making a pilgrimage to a store that looks exactly like the one you visit every morning??

And in case you’re wondering, no. I do not work for the Seattle Tourism Board.

HOW: Unlike Lake Havasu or South Lake Tahoe, Seattle is a major city with a major airport. Alaska Airlines offers flights from anywhere in the west and many national hubs. If you’re cooler than me, Virgin American and Jet Blue can offer a hip, high-service flights into Sea-Tac. But most of you will fly Southwest, because you’re cheap, tasteless, bus-riders who enjoy Southwest’s communist seating policies.

WHY: God, I don’t know.

felix hernandez view from cathcer

Felix Hernandez

I mean you only get one bachelor party and you chose Seattle? You must not have very good self-esteem.

Of course…you could make it tolerable by staying at the freaking awesome Arctic Club Hotel downtown, head to one of the biggest/best microbreweries in the country (Pyramid), right outside the greatest ballpark in the world (Safeco Field) and see the greatest pitcher in the world (Felix Hernandez) throwing in the mid-90s. Then grab a party-bus (from British Motor Coach) to Ballard for a dive-bar pub crawl with about 10,000 University of Washington sorority girls…

And then stumble to one of Portage Bay Café’s locations for the best waffle bar on this planet or any other. Maybe jump the pond to the eastside and rent a ski boat or two on Lake Washington to soak up the views of two mountain-ranges and more than a few bikinis in the country’s fittest city.

If you’ve got the energy, finish off the weekend with a night of high-class shuffleboard and soft-pretzels (oh—and a buttload of beer) at The Bravehorse. Or if you want to class it up a bit, arrange a private tasting at Seattle Caviar or the Fat Cork.

And if you really want to make it an event, time it during Seafair, the world’s greatest fleet-week, combining the fun of the Blue Angels with hydroplane-racing, an absolutely perfect summer climate and alcohol. (Oh—and…um… “girls who are trying to earn beads.”…)

You know…if you’re into that kind of thing…

Ian is the author of “A Groom’s Diary”, his journal chronicling the hilarity of the wedding-planning process…from the groom’s point of view. You can read the blog at Follow him on Twitter @agroomsdiary or Facebook!

The Best of the Web for Grooms – March 8, 2012

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

We all know that money is the #1  issue that married couples fight about. Trust me when I say that the only way to avoid these arguments is to have open, honest discussions with your future spouse. If you and your bride haven’t talked about combining finances yet, I urge you not to wait any longer. I also urge you to read this tremendous piece from Sandy Malone at The Huffington Post on how to not let the dollar destroy your marriage.

Have you picked out the tie you’re going to sport on the wedding day yet? You want to get this right, so check out Offbeat Bride’s look at ties that don’t suck. There’s some great examples here — my favorite being the antler design.

Many thanks to Wedbiz for running a giveaway of our new book, Be the Man. It takes two seconds to enter the contest via your Facebook account or email address, and you can do so here. The book is truly a must-have if you’re recently engaged or planning on popping the question soon.

Planning a creative dance for the reception? Take a look at how one smooth groom pulled off an instant classic:

Feeling the stress as the big day approaches? Don’t worry, this is obviously normal. In fact, I’d be worried if you weren’t stressed out. That being said, there are more than a few ways you can combat your worries. A recent post on OneWed written by our own Kara Horner advises on how you can de-stress before the wedding.

Stop me if you’ve heard this one: you want to build a man cave in your home, but she wants nothing to do with it. In the past, this presented a bit of a problem — not anymore. In fact, YourTango thinks a man cave can actually improve your relationship.

Groom’s Guide to Using Pinterest

Monday, March 5th, 2012

groom guide pinterest

Guys, by now you’ve likely heard about Pinterest—the virtual pinboard site that lets you “pin” or save images of anything you come across while surfing the web for later reference—from your sister, mom, fiancée or her friends. But trust me, this site isn’t just for women. In fact, it can be an incredibly useful social media tool for grooms.

Think of Pinterest as a massive corkboard for collecting all of the ideas you come across, but better. Pinterest lets you pin ideas, products, photos, instructions, etc. with a link to the original source, or upload items on your own, so you can reference them later on. And instead of having little scraps of paper thumb-tacked all over the place in your home office, the site organizes your pinned items into folders or “Pinboards” that you can customize to your needs. Also, users of the site can see the items other people have pinned—either on the main page or through users you “follow”—which means it’s a great place to troll for ideas you probably wouldn’t have found on your own. If you see something you like, you can “like” or “repin” another user’s pin to one of your own boards.

Ever come across a great gift idea for your groomsmen while surfing the Internet, only to forget about it later? Once you see an item you like, pin it to a board, such as “unique groomsman gift ideas,” so you can go back and check it out later on once you’re ready to start shopping for your attendant gifts.

Here are some other sample boards grooms can create that may come in handy: wedding day style & attire (think tuxes, suits, tie/vest/cummerbund colors, for you and your groomsmen – remember, your groomsmen can also pin ideas to give you their 2 cents), honeymoon ideas (such as destinations and travel gear), rehearsal dinner plans (like food and beverage ideas, venues and vendors), groom’s cake ideas (such as cake concepts, cupcakes, donut cakes, cake pops, etc.), and bachelor party gear (think t-shirts, shot glasses, etc.).

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Here’s how to get started:

1.) Go to and enter your email address to request an invitation.

2.) Soon after (usually within the next day or two), you’ll receive an invite to create an account. You can also log in using Facebook or Twitter (so your activity can be added to your timeline, if you want).

3.) Click on images that interest you and click on “follow people,” so Pinterest can suggest users to follow. Then, you’ll see a list of users you’re following (you can un-follow them later).

4.) Create Pinboards to group items you want to organize by subject or category.

5.) Download the Pinmarklet, which adds a “Pin It” button to your Web browser, making it easy for you to pin items you come across online.

6.) Download the Pinterest app for iPhone to better access the site on the go (this includes a camera function, so you can easily snap your own photos and pin them directly to your boards).

7.) Start pinning your rear off!

Have you or your bride-to-be utilized Pinterest yet? If so, in what ways? Share some of your boards in the comments section below.


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