What If I Don’t Have Anyone to Ask to be a Groomsman?
Asking friends and family members to serve as members of your wedding party can be a very rewarding experience. However, location, money and other external factors can sometimes put the groom in tough spot when it comes to these decisions. Today we tackle a question from a reader who’s struggling to assemble his groomsmen.
Q — What do I do if I have no one to ask to be a groomsman?
Believe it or not, this situation isn’t as uncommon as you might think. Whether your top choices for groomsmen can’t make it to the wedding because they’ve moved away or are serving in the military, you’re an only child or your sibling passed away or you’ve had a falling out with your buds in the last couple of years, sometimes choosing the members of your wedding party isn’t so easy. If you don’t have any obvious choices for your best man and groomsmen, such as close friends or brothers, don’t sweat it. First, there’s no rule that says you have to have more than one groomsman, or any, for that matter. But if you prefer to have at least one person standing beside you on your wedding day, consider these options for groomsmen: your father or grandfather; your fiancée’s father or grandfather; your fiancée’s brother or best guy friend; a cousin, uncle or other extended family member; college roommate; neighbor or church friend. There’s also no rule that says your groomsmen must be men. If you have a close female friend or family member, she can serve as your best woman or as a “groomsperson” and stand on your side of the altar during the ceremony.
Another great choice: man’s best friend. Why not have your dog serve as your best man for the big day? Spike, donning a tux, can either sit near the altar, rules permitting, or be walked down the aisle by a family member or friend. Either way, he’ll be there to cheer you on.
If these ideas aren’t quite your style, another option is to forgo groomsmen and bridesmaids altogether. There’s nothing wrong with an intimate wedding day focusing on just the two of you. Feel free to skip this tradition and do whatever works best for you and your bride.
Kara Horner is one of our resident groom advice bloggers. She has worked as writer and editor since 2001. She channels her passion for writing about weddings as a regular contributor to The Man Registry and GroomsAdvice. If you’ve got a burning question, you can connect with her on Twitter.
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