Archive for October, 2011

Without Further Ado…

Tuesday, October 11th, 2011

Today we are proud to unveil the cover for our upcoming book: Be the Man: The Man Registry Guide for Grooms. The book is now available for pre-order on Amazon and Barnes & Noble and will be released on December 6th in stores and on e-readers. Stay tuned for more updates and giveaways as the release date approaches!

Be The Man: The Man Registry Groom Guide

We want your opinion. What do you think of the cover? Like it? Or do you think it’ll end up being used as a dartboard? Let us know your thoughts in the comment section below!

My Favorite Posts From The Groom Says

Thursday, October 6th, 2011

This is not the greatest blog post in the world. This is just a tribute.

The wedding blogging community was hammered with some rough news earlier this week when my good friend Brian Leahy announced that he’ll be significantly scaling things back on The Groom Says blog. While the site isn’t being completely shuttered, new TGS posts will be few and far between as Brian focuses on bigger goals (like his lifelong dream of becoming a professional bull rider). For the past few years, Brian’s original and snarky writing style has inspired and entertained both grooms and fellow industry folk alike. It’s no secret that there aren’t many groom-centric wedding resources… and this week we lost one of the best.

In lieu of an embarrassing roast, today I honor Brian by sharing some of his greatest hits. You hardcore TGS fans will notice one post that’s missing. Trust me, I tried to track it down. I searched for it in the deepest, uncharted corners of cyberspace. Sadly, I fear it has disappeared into the abyss. That being said, try these gems on for size:

Honey, Where’s My Harness, or “the Man-gerie Post”

Real Groom Issues: Proposal Pressure

Taking the Scenic Route to the Rehearsal Dinner (guest post for GroomsAdvice)

Thinking Outside the Boutonniere Box (guest post for GroomsAdvice)

e-Groom: Another Role for Men Who Can’t Design But Can Type Real Groom

Groom Points: The Scorecard (when we knew for certain that this guy was for real)

Putting the “Fest” Back in “Infestation”: How to Avoid Bed Bugs on Your Wedding Night (guest post for GroomsAdvice)

Dozens of other entries warranted consideration. Instead of posting them all here, I encourage you to head over to The Grooms Says where all posts are permanently archived.

As I write this, the Yankees are down 3-2 to the Tigers in Game 5 of the ALDS. Brian, I’ve always tried to jab you as often as possible for being a Yankee fan. Do I feel bad about it? No. Tonight, however, I’m on your side. Let’s go Yanks!

Brian The Groom Says Headshot

We’ll miss you, Madman. Godspeed.

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The View From My Second (Marriage) Story

Wednesday, October 5th, 2011

Today we’re honored to have the cake pimp himself, Earl Anderson (aka Mr. Frostings), contributing a guest post to the blog. His topic: the trials and tribulations of building a “second story.” Take it away, Earl.

Mr. Frostings Earl Anderson

“There are eight million stories in the naked city, this is one of them.” I always loved that line from Naked City, a TV show I used to watch in reruns as a kid.

This story is about marriage. My second one to be exact, as such, its my Second Story.

I am certainly not the only one on their second story. According to Marriage101.org, 41% of first marriages end in divorce (note, I didn’t say “fail”). The bad news is that it gets worse from there; 60% of second marriages and 71% of third marriages also end in divorce. We love repeat customers, but truth is, I would much rather get the call for anniversary cakes.

Oblivious to those figures, at twenty-five and madly in love, I planned a forever with Number One. I am convinced that all superheroes are twenty-five because you are never smarter or more invincible than you are at twenty-five. I was flushed with the genius of my proposal, my amazing taste, and the surety of lifelong wedded bliss. I knew that this relationship was Liz Taylor and Richard Burton, Elvis and ‘cilla or, at the very least, John and Yoko.  It was too. For the first sixteen years. But, it ended.

Moving on.

Marriage is an addicting lifestyle. Withdrawal from that life is painful and it hurts everyone differently. For some, waking up alone in the morning is the hardest part. For me, it was turning the light off and going to sleep alone. Embarrassed and defensive, my shields were up at full power. I was clueless to what exactly I was missing or where I really hurt. To say that I was a lost soul in my own life is a vast understatement.

Emotionally crippled and morally ambivalent, I set out to be the star of my own story, which I called; “Confessions of a Serial Dater: Sleeping in the wet spot”. I spent almost ten years dating, acting like the third date was a carcinogen and thinking that if I didn’t hurry, I would somehow run out of women in the greater Los Angeles area.

Mr and Mrs. Frostings

Then, suddenly, out of nowhere appeared a woman that was not going to be trifled with or taken for granted. Maybe I was ready or maybe I was just open. It’s possible that the therapy helped and that my Zen practice allowed me to discover what it was that really mattered to me. I think that she just reminded me that life is built for two and mine was now ready for us. I loved her before I recognized it or could defend myself from it. I proposed, she set a date, and off we went.

When you first marry, you learn that she isn’t always date ready, and can be just as big a mess as you are, at times. You may have visualized a clean house, clean laundry and hot meals. Trouble comes when you realize she was thinking the same thing.  You learn to compromise and share responsibilities. You assign jobs and set boundaries. Easy peasy, lemon squeezy. You’re happy to learn how to be a good partner.  Long gone are the ideas of “wife duties” and “husband duties”

You enter the Second Story differently. You have already learned where the land mines are right? Call when you’re running late, do your share of the dishes without being asked, and never, ever, make fun of her Mother or admire how nice her sister looks. If you’re ready for this second relationship, you’re also ready to do more than lawn care and auto maintenance, you can do the laundry too.

We also benefit from being prepared for the reality of living with someone. Awkward moments are gone! Coming into this relationship we have accepted that our Angel is likely to fart in bed, morning breath no longer scares us, and a little pillow drool is acceptable. You are convinced that you know how to be a partner, and damn it, this time you’re going to get it right!!

It was quite shocking when I realized that my prior knowledge was just a starting point. Thinking I could use an old map to get to a new destination was just wrong. This is more than just a new partner, more than a new relationship. This is a new marriage. It needed a new map.

Marriage is inherently the sum of its parts. It’s details, details. Some things mean nothing, but some things mean everything. There’s danger in learning that a kiss goodbye before I leave the house is everything, if that’s all I ever learn about this new relationship. If I want this marriage to work, then I better keep trying and I better keep learning.  It’s a moving target.

I taught my sons that the key to having good friends is to be a good friend. Trust and loyalty is earned by being trusting and loyal. There is no place for selfishness in a marriage. The minute I ask myself “Where’s mine”, she has the right to point down the street and help me along my way.

I’m learning a lot from my second marriage. Most importantly, it’s really not a Second Story after all. It’s my second chance at a First Story together.

Earl Leslie Fantasy Frosting

Earl Anderson, AKA “Mr Frostings” is a life long Californian living a short 40 miles from where he was born. Along with his duties as Cake Pimp and Head cheerleader for Fantasy Frostings, Earl is the Purchasing Manager for a Packaging Supply manufacture in Fontana, CA. His self described “Brady Bunch” family includes his two sons, two daughters, two grandchildren, Henry the dog and two cats that have adopted the entire bunch.

Wedding Bands: Your Ultimate Accessory, Long After the Wedding From Tacori

Monday, October 3rd, 2011

In this month’s guest feature from Platinum Guild, we take a look at Tacori platinum and diamond wedding bands for the bride and groom. If you’re on the fence on what type of band you and your bride will be wearing — we highly suggest taking a look. Cheers!

Tacori His and Hers Bands

TACORI designers create platinum and diamond wedding bands for the Bride and Groom that are uniquely united through matching crescent silhouette design elements.

Have you made your most important wedding purchase?  Long after your wedding, when the flowers are gone, the cake has been eaten, and the dress safely stored…your wedding rings will be the ultimate visible and lasting symbol of your commitment.

From the wedding day onward, wedding bands are an enduring symbol of eternal passion.  While many brides and grooms plan key wedding items months in advance – it’s importance to place the same amount of serious thought and planning into the purchase of wedding bands.

Paul Tacorian Tacori Designer

Tacori Designer Paul Tacorian

TACORI designer Paul Tacorian knows a thing or two about timeless designs.  His family business, TACORI, has been designing engagement rings and wedding bands for three generations.

“Wedding rings are a symbol of your marriage that’s with you always,” says Paul Tacorian. “Wedding bands may indeed be THE ultimate accessory of your lifetime.  It’s the mark of a lifelong connection, and your wedding ring will reflect your passion and commitment every day of your life.”

Continues Tacorian, “TACORI prefers to use platinum in any design that is being set with diamonds – from engagement rings and wedding bands to earrings, pendants and bracelets – because the pure white metal reflects the quality of our colorless diamonds best.”

“Also, and this is important – we’ve found that the majority of TACORI brides request platinum for their engagement and wedding rings; and something to think about when purchasing the wedding band is to choose the same metal for your engagement and wedding rings, because these two rings will be sitting together and should have the same metallurgical properties in order to avoid scratches or nicks between the two rings.”

When selecting your wedding band, also consider its long lasting quality. When you say “I Do,” you want your bridal jewelry to last as long as you’re enduring commitment. Because a key property of a platinum wedding band is its durability — it doesn’t ever wear away; making it ideal for rings that will be worn every day or handed down as family heirlooms.

Like your relationship, platinum endures over time, so your rings will look just as breathtaking 10 years from now as they did on your wedding day.

Looking for your Perfect Match?  Simply answering these six questions to find perfect wedding bands that reflect your unique style:  http://www.tacori.com/Perfect-Match-Quiz

To view more wedding band styles from Tacori, please visit PreciousPlatinum.com/designgallery.

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platinum guild international is a sponsor of the man registry’s groomsadvice blog

How much thought have you put into the type of metal that your wedding band will be made of? Has your research focused on platinum? Why or why not? Let us know in the comment section below.

Beer, Bourbon, BBQ & Wedding Talk: It’s the Chicago Groom Service Show

Monday, October 3rd, 2011

Windy City Grooms: on October 20th, take a break from complaining about the Bears’ offensive line and join us at John Allan’s for the first ever Groom Service Show. This show, designed with the male in mind, will feature some of Chicago’s top groom-friendly wedding vendors. The guest speaker will be none other than our own co-founder Chris Easter. He’ll be there to provide some sage groom advice direct from his upcoming groom book: “Be the Man.”

Vendors in attendance will be: Cage + Aquarium, Carasco Photography, Erickson Design, Haberdash Men’s Shop, Nicholas Joseph Custom Suits & Tuxedos, Rodan & Fields, ShutterBooth, Smoque BBQ, SQN Events, theBrideScoop, TipsyCake, Topiarius, Truffle Truffle & W Hotels. Additionally, Dan Bernstein of WSCR-AM, 670 “The Score” will be on hand for a special appearance.

To get a special ticket price of $10, use the code TMR when buying tickets. We hope to see you there!

groom service chicago

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