after a brief hiatus, the wedding babe returns today to take on another reader question. This week, she gives her thoughts on the consequences of hiding bachelor party strippers from your bride-to-be.
Q - I want strippers at my bachelor party, but my fiancée hates the idea. Should I hide it from her?
Ah, the age-old bachelor party dilemma. You want to celebrate your final days of singledom with poles and tassels, but your fiancée isn’t having it. What’s a guy to do? Although lying to her may seem like the easiest solution, do yourself a favor and don’t. While some guys might think that what happens at the bachelor party stays at the bachelor party, the truth almost always has a way of getting out eventually — and causing you some serious heartache with your fiancée later on. Trust me, it’s much better to let her in on your plans ahead of time, whatever they may be.
Not sure how to broach the subject? Try having a conversation about your bachelor party with her when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood. (Bringing this up when you’re already arguing = bad idea.) Be honest about what kind of bachelor party you have in mind, even if it means a trip to the strip club, and then listen to her feelings on the subject. Maybe she just needs to hear from you that this is all in good fun and that it won’t in any way affect your feelings for her or your impending nuptials. Even if she still hates the idea and you agree to disagree, you’ve laid your cards on the table.
However, if you lie about it and she finds out later (which is usually inevitable), be prepared to deal with the pre-wedding firestorm. We’ve all heard the horror stories of weddings being called off at the last minute because of this exact situation. Don’t let this happen to you. If you lie about the bachelor party, she may wonder what else you’ll lie about once you’re married. The best policy is to be honest and keep the peace.
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