By Guest Blogger OneWed.com

Remember the Donald Rumsfeld quote about ‘known knowns’ and ‘unknown knowns’ and ‘unknown unknowns?’

The same is true of your wedding. You may think you know what’s going on, but do you really? I recently stumbled on this truth with my own cousin’s wedding. My cousin and I live on opposite sides of the country. When he announced his wedding, my husband and I realized that we’d need to use frequent flier miles to buy the tickets. So, before purchasing tickets for the whole family, we called and asked him of our kids were invited, he said they were. We bought four tickets.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, um, no it turns out that kids aren’t invited. My cousin and his fiancée had never actually discussed the issue, and my cousin assumed he knew the answer. Now, the whole situation has been nicely resolved, but it could have been ugly. Weddings have a lot of moving parts and small details, it’s hard to keep track of it all, so make sure to ask questions before answering them.

Remember what your old gym teacher used to say about assuming and making an ass out of you and me? Don’t let this happen to you. Practice this phrase “I don’t know the answer to that, let me get back to you.” Trust me, it’ll save you pain.

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