Archive for May, 2010

Her Dad Becomes Your Dad: Don’t Make Assumptions

Monday, May 31st, 2010


Father’s Day is approaching and it seems like as good a time as any to give some thought to the new guy in your life, her dad. Pop culture would have you believe that all Fathers of the Bride see you as a potential threat, or are looking for you to take care of their little girl.

Obviously, this isn’t true. At this point in your life you’ve probably met guys who like sports and those who don’t. You know guys who know how to fix a car, and those who can’t drive, guys who can build things, and those who have the plumber on speed dial. The point is that guys are guys, and there’s no reason to believe your future father-in-law will fit a stereotype any more than you do.

Relax, take some time to get to know this guy as a person. After all, you’ll be spending a lot of time together, for a long time!

In addition to serving as OneWed’s VP of Marketing, Jennifer Napier is a guest contributor to the GroomsAdvice blog offering a little local flavor for the grooms. You can connect with Jennifer on Google+ and Twitter.

How to Propose Like a Rock Star

Friday, May 28th, 2010
Pop the question with platinum and you'll feel like a rock star.

Pop the question with platinum and you’ll feel like a rock star.

Performing your platinum-hit-single to a stadium full of screaming fans or proposing to your girlfriend, both take nerves of steel. But many rock stars have done both successfully. Look at “Fall Out Boy” bassist Pete Wentz who proposed to Ashlee Simpson with a whopping 4-carat rock set into platinum, valued at over $100,000.00. Or look at guitarist Rob Patterson who proposed to Carmen Electra with an unusual black diamond set into platinum.  So you think you’re a rock star just cause you’ve decided to ask her? Well your performance hasn’t even begun! You’ve got to buy the ring of her dreams in a setting that matches her style and you’ve got to pick the right time and place to propose. You’ve got lots to do before you get your standing ovation.

Don’t worry! You can still propose like a rock star and you don’t have to have a chart-topping single or a sold-out European tour to afford it.

Jean Dousset $2,550 Platinum Engagement Ring (left). Michael C. Fina $1,690 Platinum Engagement Ring (right)

Jean Dousset $2,550 Platinum Engagement Ring (left). Michael C. Fina $1,690 Platinum Engagement Ring (right)

Let’s look at the costs of an engagement ring. I’m sure you’ve heard of the “two-month salary” guideline – two months salary is an appropriate amount to spend on an engagement ring. Well, let that go!  You’ve got to set a budget that’s comfortable for you but, more importantly it’s how you allot that budget. I suggest this. Assign approximately 80% to the diamond but, as important, apply approximately 20% to the setting. Too many people get caught up in the diamond without realizing that it’s the setting that should be concentrated on. The setting is what gives the ring meaning, it’s chosen in a style that’s right for her, it can be engraved with a message to commemorate the occasion and more importantly it needs to hold the investment you’re making in a diamond securely forever. Start with the setting first and work into the diamond. It’s easier!

Gelin Abaci - $3,375 Platinum Engagement Ring

Gelin Abaci – $3,375 Platinum Engagement Ring

Your setting needs to do a variety of things; express her style; be the symbol of your love and lifelong commitment; protect and hold your diamond investment and ensure that the diamond will continue to sparkle and shine. Therefore, it needs to be wear-resistant, never fade in color or cast it’s own color into the diamond.  It needs to be durable enough to be worn daily and pure enough to ensure that she never develops an allergy to the metal it’s comprised of. To meet all these needs, only one metal, delivers – Platinum. Platinum wears down at a slower rate than other precious metals making it perfect for protecting a diamond and wearing daily. It’s purity means that it’s hypoallergenic. Its natural white color (unlike gold which is really yellow) won’t add color to your colorless diamond and almost every quality jewelry designer creates rings in platinum, some even starting at under $1000, making it easy to find something that will work with her style and fit within almost every budget. So now that you’ve chosen your rock-star setting, choosing a diamond is easier. Make sure you go to a trusted jeweler and tell him your 80% budget. Ask him to show you a range of diamonds that will work within that price point. Choose the perfect one then simply have him mount it into your perfect setting.

OK, time to put what you’ve learned into practice. I think I hear your warm-up band playing so get out there and go platinum!

Which rock star matches your proposal style? Are you Mick Jagger or a Paul McCartney? Tell us in the comment section below.

Stopping a Spill in Your Marriage

Thursday, May 27th, 2010
Aerial Photo of the Deepwater Oil Spill

Aerial Photo of the Deepwater Oil Spill

By Steve Cooper, Hitched Media

When the Deepwater Horizon oil rig exploded on April 20th, it was a sad occasion where the immediate casualties were evident. What wasn’t clear at the time was a leak about one mile below the surface that would last much longer and cause much greater overall damage than the initial explosion. In marriages and relationships, we often focus on the explosions—the fights that raise our emotions and voices. What we need to look for, however, are the leaks below the surface.

Like the oil that is spreading and sticking to the Gulf Coast (and perhaps beyond), marriage leaks can permeate all facets of your relationship and gum up efforts to move forward. And while there were massive oversight and maintenance failures that contributed to the devastating events taking place in the Gulf Coast—and your marriage can learn a lesson there as well—let’s talk about the leak during and after the explosion.

Marriage expert Dr. John Gottman believes that some level of conflict in marriage is actually good and will help “weed out” the problems that can become issues down the road. So let’s dispel the notion that happy couples don’t have arguments and conflict—hopefully not regularly, though. What’s important is that you address your issues and the manner in which you respond. In fact, research has shown that what you fight about doesn’t really even matter.

I think it’s safe to say that BP and all other parties have not responded to the leak with the proper skills and solutions to prevent widespread damage. Moving forward, this event may perhaps be the catalyst that divorces the United States from the oil dependency we are currently married to. In marriage, while some equate men and women from two completely different planets, our problems are not as difficult to solve as trying to plug a gushing spill in freezing water a mile below the sea level. Couples need to learn how to cap the leak without causing further damage.

Dr. Scott Haltzman, author and clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Brown University, wrote an article for Hitched a while back outlining a few rules to follow when capping an argument. Haltzman says couples should avoid starting arguments with finger pointing and instead describe how the issue you’re concerned about is affecting you. He also says couples should avoid getting defensive when your spouse points out a problem. Remember, you’re on the same team and if you don’t understand what their issue is, continue to ask questions until you have a better grasp of their point of contention. Continuing on that theme, don’t fight to be right for the sake of being right. Dr. Haltzman says you need to see the big picture, and if the matter in question is not that important to you, why unnecessarily boost aggravation levels? Lastly—and perhaps most importantly—you need to respect your partner. “Feeling respected is critical in relationships; give your spouse the respect you would want for yourself,” writes Dr. Haltzman. “Be willing to come back after harsh words and patch things up. The old adage: ‘Don’t go to bed mad,’ had been passed down to you for a reason.”

These simple words of advice almost seem too simple. But they work. Putting a box over a leaking pipe or executing a “top kill” maneuver to plug an oil leak with mud, on the other hand, while seeming simple is a feat of prodigious engineering. While being married may sometimes feel like you’re from two different planets, thankfully our problems don’t require rocket science to solve them.


Steve Cooper is the co-founder and editor-in-chief of Hitched, a service and lifestyle online magazine for married couples. Steve hosts a weekly podcast with experts covering all topics on married life, from sex and money to in-laws and date nights. You can follow Steve on Google+, Twitter or become a fan of Hitched on Facebook.

Do you believe that a certain level of conflict in your relationship can be a good thing? Chime in with your thoughts below.

The 5 Funniest Wedding Speeches from Movies & TV

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

When it comes to weddings on TV or in the movies, there really is only one reason to watch: hilariously awful wedding toasts. Here are five favorites that stand out:

1.) Drunk Luke Wilson in ‘Old School’

Best Line – “True love is hard to find. Sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a damn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend.

2.) Michael Scott Toasts Bob Vance and Phyliss on ‘The Office’


Best lineVintage Michael Scott is at work in this toast from ‘Phyliss’ Wedding’. “Webster’s Dictionary defines ‘wedding’ as the fusing of two metals with a hot torch. Well, you know something? I think you guys are two metals… gold medals”

3.) Steve Buscemi as the Screw-up Little Brother  Toasting Big Brother in ‘The Wedding Singer’

Best Line - “Why can’t you be more like your brother? Harold would never beat up his landlord”

4.) Parade of  Creepy Toasts at the Culhane Wedding on Hugh Laurie Hosted ‘Saturday Night Live’

Best Line“OK I got it. It was 27 years ’cause I wasn’t factoring in my Dodge Aztec.”

5.) The Wolfpack Members Enjoy a Pre-Bachelor Party Toast in ‘The Hangover’


Best Line – “Hello. How ’bout that ride in? I guess that’s why they call it Sin City. Hahaha.” (video here)


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The Anatomy of a Flash Mob Marriage Proposal

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

I recently stumbled upon video of a marriage proposal that (very creatively) utilized a flash freeze mob in Chicago’s John Logan Statue Park. If you haven’t seen this yet, check it out:

We wanted to delve into this growing trend of flash mob usage and what would lead to a guy wanting to propose to his girlfriend this way. We tracked down the groom-to-be, Nick Redmond, and asked him to walk us through the planning and execution of this incredible marriage proposal that took two months of planning and the help of countless others to pull off.

It started at the beginning of February, I had been thinking of ways to propose to Amy and wanted to do something truly spectacular.  Amy and I have always loved downtown Chicago and it has always been our favorite place to be together.  From the beginning, I wanted to do something that hadn’t been done as a proposal before, and something that was truly unique.  I thought about how busy of a city Chicago is, and that it would be amazing if just for a few minutes, I could somehow freeze time and propose in that moment to Amy.  My first course of action was to create a false Facebook page under the name ‘John Jay’.  I then created an event titled ‘Chicago Freeze Flash Mob’ and began seeking out random people in Chicago to try and help out.

From the looks of her reaction, we’d call this a success. So would Greg Miller from Chicago’s Advertising Anonymous. Greg says that flash mobs are here to stay. He references the largest Flash Mob Society, Improv Everywhere, as proof of the staying power. Improv Everywhere has 49,714 members worldwide.

Greg’s company has been planning and executing mob marketing activities for several years. They were first marketing agency in Chicago to organize it’s own flash mob, which was the Water Wars event at the Chicago Air & Water show in August 2009.

From Greg – “I just love Nick’s story because it basically cost him nothing and was one of the most creative and memorable proposals I’ve ever heard of.”





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