Guest Blogger Profile: Simon Daykin
You don’t want this guy to BE YOU!!!! Leading up to your wedding you want to be relaxed, you want to know everything is good hands and that you can chill out on the day and pretty much just show up, stand in the right place, say I do and kiss your bride a lot. But there is road that leads to this Zen wedding day feeling, and I know guys hate to ask for directions on any road…even a metaphorical one, so here I am with a map for you. It’s just three simple tips but they help, oh boy do they ever help!
Get Involved!!!
I cannot stress this enough! Get involved with the wedding planning process. You don’t have to sink yourself into the nitty gritty details of everything. But attend the décor meeting, voice your opinions and be heard. That way you know there will be no surprises when you walk into your reception. Pink bows all over the place anyone!?! I wanted all our bridesmaids to wear the same shoes, seems simple enough but I was the only one who felt that way. I got my opinion heard and they all had the same shoes on when I showed up. Makes sense to me though, same dress = same shoes. So get involved in all the meetings with your planner that you can, visit the venue, help pick the menu, research the DJ, help pick out the ceremony music and your first dance tune. It’s not that hard, and it can be fun as well. Plus you get to bond with your bride to be and they love that!
Pamper Yourself, It’s OK & You Deserve It
This should really only apply if you help out with the planning process, if you do some work you can reward yourself. But here we go ‘cause I know you’ll step up and get involved. Pamper may sound silly but the only other phrase I could think of was “manper” and that sounds sillier to me. Set up a couples massage for you and your bride to be, hell set up monthly appointments if you like. It’ll keep you relaxed during the planning and leading up to the wedding. Book yourself in for a manicure, make sure your nails look good for the wedding because you know that shot of your hands and the rings will be taken, nothing worse than chewed up split nails. Get a haircut, a few weeks before the wedding, but head into a great stylist and get the full treatment, while you’re there get the warm face cloth massage and a shave, a real one, with a straight razor. You may want to book another massage and facial for you the morning of the wedding to release any left over tension. It’s up to you.
There Are Suits And Then There Are Suits, Your Should Be The Latter
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I always get on you guys about looking good. And this issue will be no different! HA. Whether you buy a suit or you rent a suit you need to “own” the suit. Make sure it fits…properly. The shoulder pads sit ON your shoulders and the jacket hugs your torso. If you feel comfortable in your suit, it will show and you’ll feel better throughout the day in general, trust me on this I do know a few things! Make the suit your own…add your own shirt, don’t EVER wear the patent leather rental shoes, other dudes sweaty feet have been in there!!! Add your own accessories like cufflinks, pocket squares and killer watch. EnglishLaundry.com has just come out with a new line of cufflinks and PocketsSquarez.com has all manner of pocket squares for you and the prices are good! You’ll feel better knowing that when people tell you that you look good, they mean it and they aren’t just being nice. And if you feel better, the day will be even better than you thought it could be, of course you may have to cut the party short because your bride can’t wait to get you back to the room, but that’s the downside of being so “ridiculously good looking” and stylish!
Simon’s Gutsy Groom Advice
Feeling good can come to you in a wild variety of ways. But it has been proven that if YOU feel good, others around you will feel better and you will be the coolest guy in the room, well the last isn’t fact…but all the guys I style sure are. Take the time to make yourself feel good, this should be every day, but especially leading up to your wedding. Less stress is good.
Getting involved with the planning process is something you should do anyway. I know you’re busy and may be tired, but this is an event that should only happen once in your life and you should be a apart of as much of it as you can be. And again, trust me on this, your bride will notice and you’ll be better off for it (wink, wink, nudge, nudge)
And on a final note, NEVER, EVER have your stag or any other drinking themed events the night before your wedding. Seriously, I will find you and walk down the aisle next to you asking you if “you’d like a greasy pork chop served in a dirty ashtray”. This wedding cost a lot of money, you love your wife to be and all these folks came in to see you do this thing. So have the respect not to get right-plowed the night before, it’s common sense, but we’re guys and it’s always….”oh I’ll be fine tomorrow”. Well no, you may not be, and you don’t want to stink of booze or puke on someone so forgo the silly juice and get a good night’s sleep.
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