Stress can be killer in the weeks and days leading up to the wedding
This week I am “unplugged” and am chilling out. I find this to be a very important part of life. Stress levels rise, tempers flare and that interferes with work, everyday life and yes, even wedding planning. Europe seems to agree with me as they give a standard 4 weeks of paid vacation time. North America however sits at the lowest amount of vacation time in the “civilized” world…no wonder we’re all going slowly nuts! Getting away doesn’t mean you have to take a big trip, just get away from the everyday, leave the cellphone and the laptop at home and just bugger off and relax. Hey, you can even take your fiancé if you like.
But Honey…Johnny Depp Has One!
Ah the private island, the ultimate getaway, even movie stars know the importance of getting away…they have more cash so they can actually buy an island to take off to. Not something we can do, but it’s nice to dream right? My point is, these people may only work 4 months of the year, 8 tops (Some “stars” don’t even seem to work, if eating lunch at The Ivy & partying the night away is work, I’m still waiting for my paycheck) But once the work is done, they take off and chill out to recharge their batteries and get ready for the next film or whatever they have going on. So you can’t buy your own island, no worries there are plenty out there for you. Take a week, or even a 3 or 4 day weekend and head off to an island of your choice. Unplug, relax and get your head back on straight so you can come back all ready to go ahead with the planning of your wedding, remember…the planning is supposed to be fun.
When I lived in Toronto we used to head up to Muskoka almost every weekend, fondly named “cottage country” by the locals this was a great place to unwind after a week at work. It was a 3 hour drive from my place so it wasn’t that bad of a commute. I loved it because we didn’t have a computer, there was no phone and you didn’t have to drive anywhere so that was great (nudge, nudge, wink, wink). The atmosphere was super chill, cause…well it’s a cottage and sitting in the sun or early morning fishing made you forget all the troubles and emails at the office. What I’m saying is this, you don’t have to take off for a week to a deserted island, you can make a quick trip out of the city to get your peace and quiet.
Grab Your Time Whenever Possible
It’s important to take your time wherever you can. If hanging out with the boys relaxes you, head to the pub and catch the UFC fight. It happens once a month and it won’t cost you an arm and a leg. I find sitting in the tattoo chair relaxing, yes I know it’s a cliché but it honestly relaxes me. Go to the spa for a couples massage or just go out for the day and top it off with a nice dinner. Just don’t talk about the wedding or work or anything that stresses you out. I know guys who love to fish, so once a week, off they go. Golfing as well, unless you play like me then it has the opposite effect. Even getting out with the guys and hittin’ a few balls at the range can take the edge off. Feel free to vent a bit but don’t go overboard and raise that stress level…
Simon’s Gutsy Groom Advice
Stress is a killer for grooms, countless studies have proven this, plus it messes with your hair line and that’s no good either. With work, bills, everyday life, hell…even the commute to work can be a pig and now you have to listen to your bride drone on about the wedding your nerves may start to feel like frayed electrical cables. It’s important to get away, switch off the brain and get back to your ice cave and penguins happy place.
You don’t have to spend a ton of cash, save that for the honeymoon. If it’s in the budget to head off to Mexico for the weekend then great, but if it’s not just decide what chills you out and book it into your schedule. I recommend securing the time in your calendar so no one books something else for you in that time, there’s nothing worse than booking a tee time and then finding out your fiancé wants you to go meet with the florist.
In the past I have just waited till my wife has gone to bed, poured myself a nice drink and sat in the dark and watched a movie I wanted to watch…just remember to keep the sound down so you don’t wake her up. We all get stressed, the trick is knowing how to control it…and knowing is half the battle.
Simon Daykin is an award winning event designer, planner and groom stylist with Fire Fly Occasions. Simon strives to get grooms involved in the wedding planning process and have their opinions heard. He understands that grooms can get left out or pushed out of the planning process so he’s here to help. You can connect with him further on Google+.